I saw this article today and I was surprised that my bed was listed NOT as the first item!!! That bed is the BEST PRESENT that my PARENT’S have ever gotten me!!!
https://www.mymsteam.com/resources/finding-the-best-mattress-for-multiple-sclerosis
I remember that this all had to happened in 2022 because that was the fateful year that I got my pressure sores from April to November. I will never forget that as long as I live. !!! That was so brutal!!!
I was trying to look through my archives, but I couldn’t find it. The post that I wrote about my Mom telling me that the bed she was going to buy for me was ‘a present from my Parents!’
I thought that I had already written about this, but I’ll just talk about it again. My Mom and I were talking about what kind of bed I needed because the bed I had was no longer working for me. My lawsuit had yet to be settled and I thought I would be able to get one for myself. My Mom recognized the urgency of my need for this bed. And she knew it was the kicker to say it how she did! I had no choice, but to accept it!!!
I don’t think my Mom told me this until 12 years after my Dad died and we were better about talking about him:
The day I was diagnosed, or told about my diagnosis, was December 28, 2000. My Mom and I drove to the hospital together. And then I got to a diagnosed by that horrible doctor. My neurologist gave me five or six hardcover books that told me about MS. All I did with them was throw them in the backseat when we were at the hospital. We had driven my car to the hospital, I think. I thought nothing of those books and I didn’t even read them, I just went to see my boyfriend.
I think it might’ve been four or five days later that my mom told me to not leave those books in the car. I put them on the dining room table. I absentmindedly flipped open one book and read the first line. I don’t even remember what it was but I remember thinking that that wasn’t going to happen to me so I didn’t see the need for me to read them. I still had a few steroids to take so I was going to be better when my pills were gone anyway.
Well, in these past 25 years I must emphatically tell you that whatever I read ABSOLUTELY happened to me and when I was 18, I did not think it would get as bad as it is now.
What my Mom told me about 12 years after my Dad‘s death was that he read ALL OF THEM!
I ask her to tell me the story all the time because I absolutely love it! It shows the fact that my dad was completely a man of few words! This is a conversation between my Mom and my Dad. My M is Mom and my Dad is D:
D: Mary, this is bad!
D: Want me to tell you about it?
M: No.
M: Ray, I’m going to live it.
M: It’s going to be expensive.
D: Yeah.
M: We have to help her.
D: Yeah.
That is such an important conversation and it is just eight statements. That’s why she knew to say that this bed was a present from my Parents. I had to take it. My Dad had already agreed to it while he was living, and I was NOT going to disrespect him in his death?!!!
My Mom told me that she is starting to forget this story so that’s why I wrote it here because I never want to forget it and I don’t think I ever will!!!